RANSVESTIA

I have only one further word of caution. Women come in all kinds as well as all sizes. What pleases one may not please all and vice versea. All women have egos the same as men and in our culture as it stands today, and even moreso yesterday when you and she were younger, women's self fulfillment was to be found in the home. However some are good housekeepers and cooks and some are not. If you happen to be a very fussy housekeeper or a very good cook, you'd best not surpass her too far in these tasks lest you open up a whole new can of worms. If you do too much better a job than she does you will be giving her the message that she is inadequate in those fields and that this is the way it ought to b done. This will be a kick right in her self confidance and she won't accept that lying down either. The same thing happens when a young FP makes a prettier girl than his wife— — she naturally is jealous and feels that he has invaded her realm and taken over her perquisites and what is there left for her? It has happened. So while I hope you will take my advice and share her world with her both the good and the bad - it is necessary here as in everything else to judge the nature of the person and the situation and not overdo it.

A clear example of taking advantage of a wife's tolerance or accept- ance and of thereby spoiling a good thing is the moderately well-to-do FP who gradually acquires both more and prettier clothes than his wife. She might well be the tailored type that wouldn't even wear the kind of clothes that her girl-husband would wear but it won't prevent her from becoming resentful at all the money he is spending on his "silly hobby.” This combined with not taking any interest or responsibility for house- work etc. is a sure fire prescription for down grading an A wife to a C minus. It would only be human nature. Put yourself in her place and consider the whole picture that you present to her and then perhaps your perspective will improve — and so will your marriage.

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However, like all good coins there is the other side of this one too. Our culture naturally breeds male chauvenists who are not aware that they are chauvenists. Thus, although FPs are presumably more interested and concerned about women than non FPs, there are nevertheless of male chauvenists among FPs. Strangely, some of them don't see it even when they are their femmeselves. A husband given to calling on his wife to get him this and that or to do this or that will likely continue to do so when he is dressed, habit being what it is. If he regards certain types of activities as being "women's work" he will not involve himself in them when he is the “man of the house" and yet strangely enough he also avoids them when he becomes a “woman”.

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